Have you ever thought of your parents’ lives before they had you? Before they got married? Before they lived together? They could have been really sweet back then; maybe much sweeter than you are with your boyfriend right now. Maybe they just lay down, watched and pointed at the stars, whispered sweet nothings to each other. Just maybe. Now, they’re just chill with each other: watch TV together, eat dinner together, and spend the rest of the day together without a single “I love you” or compliments they used to say to each other before.
When I first met my boyfriend, he really tried his best to win my heart. He’d give me some of my favorite dried mangoes. He’d visit my station with his best smile plastered into his face. He’d give me notes, saying “I hope it made your day! ^_^” stickied into my fave food. Now that we live in together and share our expenses, I would ask and beg him to buy me some dried mangoes. He still visits my station whenever it’s his break, but at times, he’ll visit with a sad face or an angry one because of a small fight or some misunderstanding. And then, I’d be the one demanding him notes and since we have the same schedule, he doesn’t have the time to write notes since those notes were for surprises, and he doesn’t like writing them with me watching.
There are some things that we seldom do nowadays. We don’t go on dates that much anymore. We don’t eat out that much (unless we’re using some useful coupons). We don’t go much to parks, too. We used to do those things when we didn’t have money for dates. Now, on the weekends, we just stay home, too lazy to go out.
Still, there are a lot of things that we can do now that we couldn’t do before. We couldn’t spend the whole day together before but now that we live with each other, we can. We can do things together: binge-watching, playing computer games, cuddling ’till morning. He still does sweet things from time to time, and I also give him notes sometimes. But now, maybe the most romantic thing we can do for each other is to give one another a back massage.
This is just what happens when you’re too comfortable with your partner as time goes by. The butterflies in your stomach may just fade away. Sweetness may fade away. But of course, that’s the challenge here. You have to make the two of you work!
So even though we seldom do the things we do before, we’re still keeping each other interested; keep the flames of love alive. Maybe in the future, we’re not going to be as sweet as we are right now, but that would just mean that we’re mature, growing and in a stronger relationship than before.